How do we know we’re emotionally drained?

We lack motivation, are irritable and lose compassion

Have you ever felt that even though it’s summer, you’re on vacation and surrounded by family and friends, you can’t relax and enjoy life? You’ve been waiting for this time of year to recharge your batteries for so long, and suddenly you find that nothing is happening. You are irritable, overwhelmed by everything and lack the motivation to even have fun.

Psychologists say that they encounter such complaints more and more often. Especially after the pandemic, many people turn to them, scared that they have become depressed and gone down the path of mental problems. They want to know if everything is irretrievably over for them, or if they have just temporarily lost the true path to the sweetness of life.

According to experts, in most cases it is emotional exhaustion due to accumulated stress and this is one of the signs of burnout. With it, people often feel like they have no power or control over what happens in their lives. Even an ordinary situation can throw them off balance and perceive it as a trap because they lack the energy and motivation to face the challenges.

Birmingham-based English psychologist Lalita Suglani recently published 9 signs that a person may be suffering from emotional exhaustion. However, she made a stipulation that they are exemplary and may be different for different people. First of all, according to her, is the feeling that everything you do is forced. Then

here comes the tilt

to isolation

and avoiding meeting people, difficulty concentrating, irritability and lack of motivation to do anything. No matter what you do, you don’t feel fulfilled, you start crying unexpectedly and you are constantly anxious. You are intolerant of others and lack compassion.

According to Dr. Suglani, while emotional exhaustion is one of the signs of burnout, that doesn’t mean it’s inevitable. “Small changes in your daily habits can help manage symptoms and prevent more serious problems,” she points out. She says it’s good to seek professional help, as feelings of hopelessness and a lack of purpose in life can be overwhelming challenges for those struggling with emotional exhaustion.

In addition, many people do not register what is happening to them as unusual or attribute it to other reasons. For example, they have problems sleeping, headaches, lack of appetite and experience fatigue. They think it could be due to prolonged COVID or another illness experienced. They are crammed with all sorts of medicines, but find no relief. Only after prolonged suffering do they begin to wonder if what is happening to them is not dictated by their emotional state, and look for a source of comfort. It’s usually hard to find because emotional exhaustion is the result of overextending circumstances that are often beyond our control. The pandemic made matters worse as it took away huge chunks of our reserve of resilience and turned our lens relentlessly from everyday to global issues. Thus, stressors increased and people’s emotional arsenal to deal with them decreased.

“So the first thing you need to understand is what’s happening to you. Do you feel a sense of anxiety and where does it come from, or are you just not confident in yourself,” Indian psychotherapist Alaokika Motwane told Vogue. She emphasizes that emotional exhaustion is not burnout, nor is it depression, although some of the signs may be similar. Therefore, it is good to have your condition determined by a specialist. Also, self-diagnosis can amplify what you’re feeling, leaving you in a soul-crushing loop.

According to Motwane, women are more susceptible to emotional exhaustion. “Cultural conditioning suggests they suppress their anxieties and be praised as multitaskers. The perception of them is that they have unlimited amounts of energy and it’s a shame if they don’t show it. If you are not the best mother who wakes up in the morning, prepares breakfast for her child, goes to work, to the gym, comes back and makes dinner for the whole family, you are failing,” says the Indian psychotherapist. And this leads to a very harmful thought pattern for ladies. They cannot admit that they are emotionally exhausted or overheated. If they accidentally do, they feel guilty about their condition and look for the reasons within themselves, which is a wrong strategy. They also strive for quick solutions, which are often impossible, since it is a matter of eliminating circumstances and major life challenges. All things that cannot be overcome with a five-point manual, but a long-term strategy is needed. “I can give you five-point advice on how to sleep better, but not how to deal with emotional exhaustion,” says Motwane. To find a workable solution,

on first place


are determined

the sources of

stress and be


Then pay attention to the emotions that overwhelm us every day and whether we manage to control them.

Experts advise learning to breathe deeply while analyzing your feelings. In this way, more oxygen enters the body and the feeling of fatigue decreases. Another trick is to set some near goal and focus your energy on it. In this way, you will compensate for the lack of motivation and get rid of the dark thoughts that you are not coping with anything. It is a very important point to stop trying to control everything and learn to love yourself as you are. This will help you perceive what is happening around you as something normal and understand it better, and also have a more optimistic view of things, which is part of the way to return to your emotional balance.


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